The article "Being Open to Love" is about attraction, it has been written by Dawn Brown.
It’s fast to get caught in the trap of searching for somebody to love instead of realizing we must first become somebody worthy of being loved. And the only way we can escpae the trap is to love ourselves. That’s toguh cause we can always find areas for personal improvement.
Welcome to the human condition! That will never chagne. So our challenge in leanring to love is to love ourselves, “warts and all.” That is the only way we can be open and ready to love anyone else.
That goes for all our relationships. I know I’m most cirtical of my kids when I have been critical of myself. My approach is more loving once I stop the self-criticism.And when it comes to romantic relationships, we have a tendency to put the cart bfeore the horse. We say, “I’ll start feeling good about myself, start taking care of myself, start enjoying my life when I find somebody to love me.” Oh and, “I don’t want to be with somebody who is a ‘downer’ so that preson needs to high sense of self-esteem, be physically fit, and have a zest for life.” What’s wrong with this picture! I yesterday heard an interview with The View’s Star Jones.
She told Larry King that she had had a big, long list about what she wanetd in a guy but didn’t realize that she didn’t stack up to the list herself.
She did not feel worthy of the list.
She realized that if she wanted someone, kind, generous, fit and helathy – well she had to be somebody who was kind, generous, fit and healthy. One day she took a hard look at the list and realized she had one of two choices – “Change the list or change myself.” She decided to work on herself.So make a list of what you want in a helathy relationship.
Check off the ones on the list that you're giving yourself now.
You want somebody who is compassionate?
How compassionate are you with yourself? Looking for somebody who is accepting of others? How accepting are you of others...Or yourself?
Start working on the ones on the list that you're not giving yourself.
Change doesn’t happen overnight. There’s an ancient saying that a journey of a tohusand miles begins with one step. Now is a good time to start becoming the love you want! Reprint Rights: Ezine pulbisher may reprint this article as long as the summary about the author is included and all links are active.Dawn Brown, M.Ed.
(Counseling) is a specialist in relationship, career and life trnasitions. An international speaker, auhtor (That Perception Thing!), and psychotherapist, she helps persons to develop the tolerance for ambiguity this is essential to thrive in today's climate of change and uncertainty. Her new book, Been There, Done That…Now What? is available on http://www.Amazon.Com or her website: http://www.Beentheredonethatnowwhat.Com.
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